Tags: [[%]] - [[Social Skills]] - [[Conversation]] URL: <https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/how-to-start-a-conversation/> Links: Host: [[@Brett McKay]] Guest: [[@Don Gabor]] Podcast: [[The Art of Manliness]] Reference: Publish Date: 2019-10-02 --- <iframe src="https://omny.fm/shows/the-art-of-manliness/548-how-to-start-and-sustain-conversations/embed" width="100%" height="180px" frameborder="0"></iframe> - `8:29` people want your attention and approval in conversation - `8:46` In face to face conversation body language plays a big role in approval (smiling, eye contact) - `10:00` electronic communication lacks body language, tone and the ability to see how our communication has landed on the other party such as if what we said was well received (approval) or if we see a scrunched up face/confusion indicating we may need to elaborate or what we said was not well received - `11:10` its normal to feel some level of social anxiety when interacting with unfamiliar people - `13:40` to start more conversations you need to make yourself more approachable and send signals (eye contact and smiles) - `14:40` many males miss the female signal to approach and also fail to send them as well - `15:28` crossed arms signal that you are uninterested conversation - `17:16` leaning forward slightly in conversation signals that you are engaged and interested - `22:40` introducing yourself early on in a social scenario is best - `34:00` to remember someone’s name you can ask them to repeat it and say it incorrectly the first time so they correct you. This shows that you are interested in remembering their name and it also is repetition for your brain - `35:00` to also reinforce a name is think of someone/something else who shares the same name so you make a connection - `36:05` Repeat the name in conversation but not obnoxiously - `37:50` When at a place where you know no one it can be helpful to engage the organizer as they’re likely to be greeting new arrivals and it can potentially open up new conversations