#### [[Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria causes people with ADHD to become people pleasers]] --- Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria is a term coined by [[@William Dodson]] > *"Dysphoria"* comes from a Greek word that means “hard to bear." People with ADHD are highly sensitive to Rejection and negative emotions due to emotional dysregulation. They are sensitive to the thoughts others have of them and bend over backwards to try and only inspire positive thoughts and opinions about them. Of course trying to please everyone has the opposite of the intended effect and with ADHD added to the mix it makes an already impossible task all the harder. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria episodes are short and intense bursts of emotion > RSD can affect relationships with family, friends, or a romantic partner. The belief that you're being rejected can turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you act differently toward the person you think has rejected you, they may begin to do so for real. > > - **People with RSD may:** > - Be easily embarrassed > - Get very angry or have an emotional outburst when they feel like someone has hurt or rejected them > - Set high standards for themselves they often can't meet > - Have low self-esteem > - Feel anxious, especially in social settings > - Have problems with relationships > - Stay away from social situations and withdraw from other people > - Feel like a failure because they haven't lived up to other people's expectations^[[[The impact of rejection on people and their offers is reduced when blame is placed on an external construct]]] > - Sometimes think about hurting themselves > > -- [Webmd](https://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria) This type of behavior is likely to lead to avoidant attachments when people with ADHD try to avoid repeating behaviors that cause them pain and distress: ![[Avoidant Attachment#^d21b4a]] ![[Avoidant Attachment#^238af8]] --- Tags: [[Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder]] - [[Mental Health]] - [[Relationships]] - [[Neurology]] - [[Neurodivergent]] - [[Psychology]] Reference: Related: - [[The impact of rejection on people and their offers is reduced when blame is placed on an external construct]]